I would like to consult if my wife’s case can be qualified for PSYCHOLOGICAL INCAPACITY for being ONIOMANIA or SHOPAHOLIC which makes her unfit to be a housewife. Bilang may-bahay, ang mga bayarin sa bahay ay kanyang hinahawakan subalit ito ay kanyang nilulustay.
Narito ang ilan sa kanyang mga paglulustay:
- Hindi tamang pagbayad sa aming mga bills tulad ng MERALCO, CABLES etc…
- Pagsangla sa aming mga alahas
- Pagukuha sa mga ipon at allowance ng aming mga anak
- Pagkupit sa Tuition Fee ng aming mga anak
- Pag-utang sa Lending Institution gamit ang aming mga kasangkapan sa bahay bilang collateral
- Paglubog sa utang sa Credit Card (BPI) at ng aking tulungan ay kumuha na naman ng bagong Credit Card (RCBC) at umabot agad sa Credit Limit na P15,000 sa kangyang unang buwan pa lamang
- Pagsinungaling sa pagpapaduktor ng kanyang ama para lang makahingi ng pera sa akin
- Pagnanakaw sa pera sa bangko ng kanyang OFW na ina (they are in join-account) na umabot sa dalawang-daang libong piso
- Pagdaya sa aking pirma upang maka-utang sa bangko (PNB) silang mag-ina ng P2 milyon
- Kaliwat-kanan na utang sa ibat-ibang mga tao gamit na kasinungalinagn na kagipitan ng aming pamilya na hindi naman tutoo.

Salamat po…

i have a sister… her husband flew to Malaysia sometime in 2008. after 6 months they never ever had communications given to the fact that they have their communication gadget like cellphone, an internet, to which i believe her husband is refusing. sometime last year we had found out that their is this common girl in her husband Facebook to which on an account was seen.. Until now they never ever have a communication… i dont if if it was a hearsay to say that her husband is with the girl or something.. we got nothing to prove if her husband is with another girl but one thing for sure, He aint got no communications after 6 months he left until now.

Any thoughts on this?

Thanks Much and Best Regards.

I got married last October 2000, I was 19 then and my husband is 18. We got married 2 weeks before he left for japan,he was sponsored by my mother-in-law. He’s coming home for vacation only for 10 dys each year. In 2002 he went home secretly together with a japanese lady who at that time he’s living in with. One of their relative was concerned enough to tell me about it. While living with that girl he stopped sending financial support to us, and that is when the problem arised. I decided to work to support the needs of my son. Eventually his relationship with that japanese lady didn’t worked. Then he met another japanese girl with whom he had a child after 5 yrs of living together. Now, last thing I heard, he’s in jail due to drug related case. It has been 11 years of being separated. I think it’s about time to start a new life and have a family.

Is it possible to file for an annulment case and on what grounds. By the way, I’m currently working in Qatar and he is jailed in Japan, he’s also using a different name (passport, visa, etc). Need your advice on this matter. Thank you and hope to hear from you soon.

for 10 years i seemed to put up a mask on myself to get by with the marriage.. i became stiff and serious almost for 10 years… i seldom smile and dont even joke with my children… i apparently became like a robot just to keep the marriage going… but inside me hostility is starting to grow… i dont talk to my husband because i know i will be rejected only… i dont talk much about my feelings… i just pent it up until i started to resent him… most especially when we talk we always end up fighting… his greed… taking all that is mine for his credit caused a lot of pain in me… i tried to keep the marriage happy but his continued neglect of my person seemed to push me further to hedge myself with an attitude so serious and unapproachable… when i am with my sisters i can feel a transformation of myself… i begin to see my old self… i can laugh naturally… i can crack jokes… it was nice seeing me coming out again… but once my husband around that “me” starts to curl up inside me and would not come out… then silence starts to dominate the atmosphere… for a long time i even seem to act like a lesbian… not a feminine display of myself… i needed to be hard… so as not to show how i am as woman or else i would feel sorry for myself…. this had been my situation for 10 years… always inside of me contradicting him and not agreeing with his views inside me… i let things happen just like a robot so as not to create argument anymore… but this had taken its toll on me… i started to feel like bursting… i long for a sense of freedom…. something in me as if would always like to burst out and my “me” would like to resurface again… now i have walked out of my marriage for 3 years already… now i wanted to file for annulment… i do hope i could receive enlightenment from you? thank you

Cel